Control happens naturally when you are trusting in your Self, in life, in love. When being consciously aware of your own self you are able to control you inner reality each moment of your existence. Thus you are feeling effortlessly in control in life at all times. You have realized that the power to change your life lies in your own hands and control can only take place inside your consciousness and inside your own self. Manipulation of others or of your self is only a substitute for true control and it is being practised when you are living in fear and lacking in trust towards you Self, life and love.