If you desire to change yourself or an external situation in your personal life you have to first fully accept the status quo. Acceptance is creating the necessary space for a change to occur. A space, which before has been taken up by your reasoning, explanations, excuses and attempts at justification why you or the situation are the way they are. And the same goes for accepting another person the way he/she is. Although to be exact you cannot actually change another person but if you come to accept them the way they are, you are admitting them more room to be themselves in on the one hand and on the other hand you are allowing yourself to see them and react to them differently from how you would have done if you had still been actively wanting them to be different.
There is a kind of love which unifies and unites and one that renders us poignantly - at times even painfully - aware of boundaries, limitations and our separateness. The mastership of true loving is to attain the awareness of the first and to henceforth exist in this state even whilst passing through personal experiences of the love that separates.
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