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NO/NO and YES/YES

There is a "No" which takes you away from your personal truth and one, that brings you closer to it or even actually expresses it.
Although you should strive to free yourself as much as possible from hindering limitations by living in the affirmative towards yourself and life rather than the opposite, at times it is still necessary to say "no". In order to keep to your truth and not giving too much by exceeding your personal capacity of energy. The same applies to the "yes". There are those who say "yes" when actually meaning "no" because they are afraid to speak their own truth and for the same reason there are those who say "no" instead of "yes". Some people have the tendency to always take or ask too much of their fellow men and some with the tendency to to give too much.
Life in harmony is a exchange of giving and taking in which the two sides are naturally balanced.
It can be observed in people who want to be all "good, giving and helpful" towards their fellow men, that in so doing they are often depleting their own resources because they do not keep to their personal limitations. The same outward symptom can have also another reason, namely that the individual in question acts thus out of fear/uncertainty/minority complex. In both cases to say "no" at times would be helping them to have more energy to themselves but would also demand the willingness to tackle and transform personal issues because the root to the reaction upon the surface has roots that reach deep into the Self.
However there is a way to be always giving without overstepping your own boundaries. In this way of being both saying "yes" and "no" come naturally to you and are invariably expressions of your own truth. In any situation, saying neither the one nor the other, causes you to feel guilty/afraid nor causes you to take too much of your share or to give too much. This becomes possible once you have risen above your Lower Self in consciousness and are no longer identifying with it, instead directing its actions from your Higher Self. In this state even your "no" is spoken in love and therefore is a kind of giving all the same.
When you know how to respect your own personal limitations, your environment will automatically adjust itself to your change in behaviour and cease to demand or take too much of you either. It never works the other way round and simply no amount of accusing and complaining about the demands put upon you on part of your environment is going to bring about any changes for the better.
The key to an equal balance between giving and taking lies within you and therefore can only be adjusted by yourself.
The Lower Self with its inherent Ego and finite physical form is inevitably limited and thus personal capacity has boundaries. Your individual character is determining how much you are able to share of yourself without losing yourself in the process. However its is nonetheless possible for you to aim at stretching your own boundaries in order to increase your original capacities, while all the while keeping to your own truth and staying within your own power.

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