Deep-set fears can affect people's characters in many different ways depending on their dispositions. There are those who as a result are rendered either fretful, anxious or cunning in various degrees due to the fear having unpercieved got the upper hand of their natures.
One might say that those of the first two categories are quite harmless, whereas those of the last are to be treated with prudence. Because they usually try to subtly bully you into believing that something about the way you are is not right. Out of their uncertainty of themselves they are trying to convince you by verbal attack, accusation or even overt aggression that you are wrong/abnormal/weak. And because this is making you busy defending yourself either outwardly or inwardly in your thoughs only, they are successfully distracting the attention from their own weaknesses (which in themselves are nothing to be ashamed of and only gain negative momentum by suppresion).
The best way to deal with such individuals and to cope with such situations, is to remain as passive inwardly and outwardly as you can possible make yourself. Because the least opposition or attempt at reasoning on your part will stir up their temper even more. In such moments it is very difficult to remain true to oneself and to stick with one's personal truth and even more difficult it is to keep a loving and compassionate attitude towards your attacker. Unless you have utterly purged your Ego from fear, it will invariably be stirred into life and thus challenging your neutrality.
One might say that those of the first two categories are quite harmless, whereas those of the last are to be treated with prudence. Because they usually try to subtly bully you into believing that something about the way you are is not right. Out of their uncertainty of themselves they are trying to convince you by verbal attack, accusation or even overt aggression that you are wrong/abnormal/weak. And because this is making you busy defending yourself either outwardly or inwardly in your thoughs only, they are successfully distracting the attention from their own weaknesses (which in themselves are nothing to be ashamed of and only gain negative momentum by suppresion).
The best way to deal with such individuals and to cope with such situations, is to remain as passive inwardly and outwardly as you can possible make yourself. Because the least opposition or attempt at reasoning on your part will stir up their temper even more. In such moments it is very difficult to remain true to oneself and to stick with one's personal truth and even more difficult it is to keep a loving and compassionate attitude towards your attacker. Unless you have utterly purged your Ego from fear, it will invariably be stirred into life and thus challenging your neutrality.
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