When relationships are breaking up or when there are grave arguments between close friends/relations the usual reaction of those who are involved in it is to look for the mistakes one or both sides have made in order to find out who is "at fault" for the rupture.
However, no-one is at fault, no one made mistakes. The disharmony occurred because both were simply being themselves. And because their unresolved personal issues of unconscious fear are the same the closeness to the other person brought them to the surface and this caused the rupture.
If one must talk about "faults" and "mistakes" in this context the only thing to be reproached is the held expectations towards the self and the other person.
However, no-one is at fault, no one made mistakes. The disharmony occurred because both were simply being themselves. And because their unresolved personal issues of unconscious fear are the same the closeness to the other person brought them to the surface and this caused the rupture.
If one must talk about "faults" and "mistakes" in this context the only thing to be reproached is the held expectations towards the self and the other person.
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